Everything You Need to Know About the Wedding Garter Tradition

If you’re getting married and you’ve ever considered wearing a garter—a small, slim band of elastic fabric that was invented to keep stocking up—you have to remember that the tradition draws pretty mixed responses. Some find it charmingly old-school, others see it as old-fashioned. Whether you are interested or uninterested, the wedding garter has been a traditional accessory worn in many nuptials, and it’s time you take a closer look at its proper use.

Whether you’re thinking about incorporating it into your own celebration — or are just wondering where the tradition began — this guide will fill you in. From the tradition’s historical origins and modern updates, we detail your many options.

A Closer Look: What Is a Wedding Garter?

A garter, worn under a bride's wedding gown, is a small, sexy fashion piece. Usually made of lace or satin and secured with elastic, the garter was originally a functional item — designed to prevent stockings from falling down. It’s more symbolic today, and a fun little tradition at the reception.

The garter is traditionally slid off the bride during the celebration — by hand or teeth — and thrown to a crowd of men. Its catcher will be encouraged (or rather asked to) place it on the woman who caught the bouquet, often as a fun or spirited act.

Today’s garters have a variety of designs — from simple lace to super-embellished kinds that feature rhinestones or appliqués. While you can find them in just about any shade, white and blue are two of the most popular. Prices range from $15 to $125, with the majority of styles hovering from $20 to $35.

Garter Toss History

Recall the long-standing tradition hails to the Medieval times, when wedding party revelers thought grabbing a piece of the bride’s clothing would bring good luck. In others, the newlyweds would be followed to their chamber by the guests, who would tear at their clothes in a rather overenthusiastic attempt to share in the bride’s luck. And to soothe the mob, couples began tossing things — the bouquet, the garters that kept the bride’s stockings from falling down.

Today, the tradition has shifted to something that's purely optional and meant to be lighthearted. This is a step many couples prefer to omit.” That's totally fine, too.

How to Wear a Wedding Garter

To minimize discomfort, it’s best to wear your garter just above the knee, where your thigh is the narrowest. This makes it less likely to rub against you as you go about your day. Placement above the knee also works perfect for fitted gowns such as a mermaid style since you can avoid excess bunching while walking and dancing, which means fabric won't get caught in it.

Do I have to throw my garter at the reception? Some brides opt to keep their garter on all day, even if they don’t plan to include a garter toss. If that’s your game plan, choose a soft, stretch lace style that lies flat on the skin. You might instead wear it just before the toss, or save it for your wedding night to complete your lingerie collection.

And even if you don’t want to wear a garter at all? That’s okay — no one says you have to.

How to Shop for a Wedding Garter

There is no right time to purchase a wedding garter. Or if a friend gives you one for your bridal shower, it can be a nice “something special” to wear. Prefer to choose your own? Go for it! Just be sure to leave yourself plenty of time — particularly if you’re ordering a custom design. Inquire with the maker about when your item will be produced, to spare yourself any last-minute distress.

Other Options For Garter Toss

Not digging the whole garter toss thing? You’re not alone. But there are plenty of ways you can make that tradition your own, or at least bring it into adulthood:

• Toss a “tossing garter”: Save your cutting-edge garter and toss another (cheaper) one.
• Change up the moment: Instead of making your partner reach under your dress, give them the garter to hand off right before the toss.
• Skip it entirely: If the whole thing does not appeal, don’t feel as if you need to include it in your celebration.

In any event, the point is to go with what feels right — whatever suits you and your holiday. You may want to embrace the tradition: You may wish to disrupt it; that’s up to you.